In my experience, I found people in general complain about anything that does not go smoothly. My take in life however is to find a solution first instead of complaining about it.
Complain does not really do any one any good. Producing solution is far more rewarding then spending your time making yourself miserable, Not to mention raising one’s blood pressure.
Recently New Yorkers all complains about the pile of snow that was not clear after a record snow fall in the city. I heard that on TV, radio, the media had a field day and the city council scramble to make damage control, and play the blame game. I would consider some of the complains were legitimate, consider some streets were impassable a week after the storm.
Today on the street I heard a different kind of complain on the condition of the city street with too much accumulated dirty snow water on most corners. The fact is just this morning the city been pleading to everyone, while clearing the driveway or sidewalks, don’t dumping all the excess snow on to the street.
When I told the concierge at my office building this morning not to do it, they may get a fine if get caught doing it, they told me that is not their problem, call the management office. That attitude is exactly what we do not need. Their action is what created the puddle in the first place.
When weather gets warm, snow melt. What so difficult to understand. When the drainage is block, water remains on the service. How difficult for everyone to understand. If that is not clear, try plug in the tub while you are using the shower. Same effects.
Instead of complaining about the city not doing a good job, making the MTA run smoothly, or not clearing the street fast enough for the traffics to flow and the sidewalk clear, we should just let nature take it course. In a day or two, all will be back to Normal. New York City will be the same as always
Chance Encounter NYC_ London
Friday, January 28, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Separation affects 2011
Distance may make the heart grown fonder or is it stress on the relationship?
Having spent endless hours last summer together, living separate lives in two continents and more time spend on virtual visits then actual togetherness is putting our relationships through a test of a life time.
We still believe we were meant to be together, a little distance would not hurt so we think. For that fact remains is there future in this arrangement? Meeting every three months for a short few days is that enough to sustains a long-term relationship? The strains on our relationship are sometimes intense.
We also thought, “Absence only makes our heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring ourselves that our love will allow us to conquer any difficulties that distance and long absences brings. However reality seems to tell a different story. As time passes it seems to be increasing being “Out of sight, out of mind.” The immediate demands of our work out weighted the availability of attractive and love. There are times we misses our scheduled calls. However email is still intense about three to four a day.
As we beginning to miss calls, I beginning to have doubt if both of us are committed to our commitment, even though we did not experience any of the classic symptoms of often ups and downs, and a whole host of less-than-wonderful feelings, like other couple does. We still make each other laugh as we were together. However virtual relationships seems not enough to replace the pleasure of a gentle touch and a face-to-face conversation on any given night, the longing of his arrival thru the front door, I miss waking up in the morning greeted by that gentle kisses. arise as a third party beginning to enter my protected world. It became almost impossible to resists the advances. I try to keep my partner visible to others, there were news update in gatherings, there were forwarded email, to ensure it is public knowledge that I am not available. As the third party tempting as it may be, I am trying my best to keep all the advances at bay. However I am not sure how much longer the levy will hold without repair.
On the eve of long waited flight to his side, I am excited and also have doubt. I hope it all works out for us. If not, there will be months of depression and swollen eyes ahead to look forward to.
Chance Encounter NYC.
Having spent endless hours last summer together, living separate lives in two continents and more time spend on virtual visits then actual togetherness is putting our relationships through a test of a life time.
We still believe we were meant to be together, a little distance would not hurt so we think. For that fact remains is there future in this arrangement? Meeting every three months for a short few days is that enough to sustains a long-term relationship? The strains on our relationship are sometimes intense.
We also thought, “Absence only makes our heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring ourselves that our love will allow us to conquer any difficulties that distance and long absences brings. However reality seems to tell a different story. As time passes it seems to be increasing being “Out of sight, out of mind.” The immediate demands of our work out weighted the availability of attractive and love. There are times we misses our scheduled calls. However email is still intense about three to four a day.
As we beginning to miss calls, I beginning to have doubt if both of us are committed to our commitment, even though we did not experience any of the classic symptoms of often ups and downs, and a whole host of less-than-wonderful feelings, like other couple does. We still make each other laugh as we were together. However virtual relationships seems not enough to replace the pleasure of a gentle touch and a face-to-face conversation on any given night, the longing of his arrival thru the front door, I miss waking up in the morning greeted by that gentle kisses. arise as a third party beginning to enter my protected world. It became almost impossible to resists the advances. I try to keep my partner visible to others, there were news update in gatherings, there were forwarded email, to ensure it is public knowledge that I am not available. As the third party tempting as it may be, I am trying my best to keep all the advances at bay. However I am not sure how much longer the levy will hold without repair.
On the eve of long waited flight to his side, I am excited and also have doubt. I hope it all works out for us. If not, there will be months of depression and swollen eyes ahead to look forward to.
Chance Encounter NYC.
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