Separation affects 2011

Distance may make the heart grown fonder or is it stress on the relationship?

Having spent endless hours last summer together, living separate lives in two continents and more time spend on virtual visits then actual togetherness is putting our relationships through a test of a life time.

We still believe we were meant to be together, a little distance would not hurt so we think. For that fact remains is there future in this arrangement? Meeting every three months for a short few days is that enough to sustains a long-term relationship? The strains on our relationship are sometimes intense.

We also thought, “Absence only makes our heart grow fonder” as a way of reassuring ourselves that our love will allow us to conquer any difficulties that distance and long absences brings. However reality seems to tell a different story. As time passes it seems to be increasing being “Out of sight, out of mind.” The immediate demands of our work out weighted the availability of attractive and love. There are times we misses our scheduled calls. However email is still intense about three to four a day.

As we beginning to miss calls, I beginning to have doubt if both of us are committed to our commitment, even though we did not experience any of the classic symptoms of often ups and downs, and a whole host of less-than-wonderful feelings, like other couple does. We still make each other laugh as we were together. However virtual relationships seems not enough to replace the pleasure of a gentle touch and a face-to-face conversation on any given night, the longing of his arrival thru the front door, I miss waking up in the morning greeted by that gentle kisses. arise as a third party beginning to enter my protected world. It became almost impossible to resists the advances. I try to keep my partner visible to others, there were news update in gatherings, there were forwarded email, to ensure it is public knowledge that I am not available. As the third party tempting as it may be, I am trying my best to keep all the advances at bay. However I am not sure how much longer the levy will hold without repair.

On the eve of long waited flight to his side, I am excited and also have doubt. I hope it all works out for us. If not, there will be months of depression and swollen eyes ahead to look forward to.

Chance Encounter NYC.