This may be true to some degree it is harder to meet true friends in any big city. However, I disagree that one cannot meet the right friends here at all. Anyone who thinks this way should go back to where they came from.
I believe it is all depends on your approach. If the search is center around bars like may of us do, that is the worst possible place to concentrate your effort in. It could happen, but never the best place by any means.
This acquaintance I encountered, interested in only what he wanted, in his mine of a perfect friend and partner, but never ask himself if he is also a perfect ten in the eye of his prospect too? Definitely no Casanova, and a little self center as well.
He announced that he got approached a lot in bars. Unfortunately from what I saw those are mostly undesirable individuals, searching for desperate companies, on a lonely weekend out in the town. I suppose there is nothing wrong with it unless you are looking for a one nightstand.
More importantly I realized when ask this acquaintance of his hobby or interests, he can’t provide a straightforward answer for a single activities that he can share with a group of people. In a city like New York, there are many opportunities to meet up with a group of people to peruse a common interest. Like arts and culture, or restaurants and food, outdoor activities or even shopping, there must be something he could enjoy doing with a group of people. At least that is the first step towards meeting quality friends, instead of hoping to meet “a person” he have nothing in common with, other than his obsession of their physical beauty. That is a lost course.
However, I am no authority on this subject, I made a lot of quality friends in the city, I will no longer extend a helping hand in his matter any further, because it landed me on the wrong place even with the right heart. To be true to my principle, it is really not important to have these kinds of negative influences in my life either way. Who have time for that.
What do you think? Care to share your thoughts.
Chance Encounter NYC
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Friday, February 26, 2010
A brighter forecast
I wrote on my blog yesterday:
“ I believe mood is created by what you experiencing at a particular place and time in your life, weather as a media, helps intensify it in either ways.“
I stood by what I wrote. The sky may be a little brighter today, but the weather is still miserable. The snow still falling non-stop, the city is nothing but a dirty wet mess. None of these matters, the miserable gray mess huffing over my heart for the last two days, had been lifted this morning. All I left feeling is rainbow and sunshine, blue birds and puffy white clouds. Even the razor sharp wind fells like gentle summer breeze. White snow left on every rooftops, and treetops, is surreal and magic, a perfect picture in my mind. Oh let’s me dance in the snow to the music of the city, under the bright light of Broadway with arm stretch out wide…
I only have myself to blame that led me into the downward emotional spiral. There was no communication break down nor break up, just a flu that grounded all correspondences. My trust and love is not in vein after all.
From here on our future looks much brighter. Stay tune. To some weather may still alter mood, but it is not the only factor after all.
My sincere thanks for all the concern emails; thanks for reading my blog.
Chance Encounter NYC
“ I believe mood is created by what you experiencing at a particular place and time in your life, weather as a media, helps intensify it in either ways.“
I stood by what I wrote. The sky may be a little brighter today, but the weather is still miserable. The snow still falling non-stop, the city is nothing but a dirty wet mess. None of these matters, the miserable gray mess huffing over my heart for the last two days, had been lifted this morning. All I left feeling is rainbow and sunshine, blue birds and puffy white clouds. Even the razor sharp wind fells like gentle summer breeze. White snow left on every rooftops, and treetops, is surreal and magic, a perfect picture in my mind. Oh let’s me dance in the snow to the music of the city, under the bright light of Broadway with arm stretch out wide…
I only have myself to blame that led me into the downward emotional spiral. There was no communication break down nor break up, just a flu that grounded all correspondences. My trust and love is not in vein after all.
From here on our future looks much brighter. Stay tune. To some weather may still alter mood, but it is not the only factor after all.
My sincere thanks for all the concern emails; thanks for reading my blog.
Chance Encounter NYC
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Can Weather Affect Moods
I believe mood is created by what you experiencing at a particular place and time in your life, weather as a media helps intensify it in either ways.
Presently I can’t affix my anxiety and depression to the absolutely ghastly weather; even it is gray, chill and rainy, outside with the warning of an impending wet snowstorm. It is just my state of mine in this moment in time affecting me deeply.
Just when all seems well with my recent romantic relationship, even with promises of a future meeting soon on the distance shore, all communication came to an abrupt end, before the memories fade. Not sure what had happened, there was neither indication nor signs. Change of mind perhaps, my worst fear is rather mishaps happened.
The silence and unknown consumed my entire being, and restless nights, replaced the sweet dreams still linger. When I left with holding the candles in the dark, cling on hope that there are explanations for all these craziness, in reality I am gradually coming to a waking point to accept the fact that I may never know the story.
My friends told me it is a bad idea to hang on. Leaving the chapter without an ending and the possibility of a loving relationship is even harder to let go. Distorted and unsettled, just like waking up from a nightmare.
“Head out; tomorrow is another day.” Even though I am not willing to leave my sweetest memories behind, I may have no choice. Tell me I am a romantic. Well that is why there are many love stories still waiting to be told.
Thanks for reading. Grant me a pray, still cling on and hoping.
Chance Encounter NYC
Presently I can’t affix my anxiety and depression to the absolutely ghastly weather; even it is gray, chill and rainy, outside with the warning of an impending wet snowstorm. It is just my state of mine in this moment in time affecting me deeply.
Just when all seems well with my recent romantic relationship, even with promises of a future meeting soon on the distance shore, all communication came to an abrupt end, before the memories fade. Not sure what had happened, there was neither indication nor signs. Change of mind perhaps, my worst fear is rather mishaps happened.
The silence and unknown consumed my entire being, and restless nights, replaced the sweet dreams still linger. When I left with holding the candles in the dark, cling on hope that there are explanations for all these craziness, in reality I am gradually coming to a waking point to accept the fact that I may never know the story.
My friends told me it is a bad idea to hang on. Leaving the chapter without an ending and the possibility of a loving relationship is even harder to let go. Distorted and unsettled, just like waking up from a nightmare.
“Head out; tomorrow is another day.” Even though I am not willing to leave my sweetest memories behind, I may have no choice. Tell me I am a romantic. Well that is why there are many love stories still waiting to be told.
Thanks for reading. Grant me a pray, still cling on and hoping.
Chance Encounter NYC
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Comments on an interview
I stumble across an article to day on a non-eventful day, and was surprise by what I read.
During a design Magazine interview. The young hot owners of one of the top interactive design firm in Europe said that “There are no superstar designer in the US; designers are just doing their business. When American designers come to Croatia, they are met by TV and media asking for an interview–they are stunned!”
I will too. American designers are not use to spot light. Most top designers are not well known outside of our industries. We are happy doing our own thing, and praise God that we have such a fulfilling job, doing what we love, that is more than enough. We don’t need media, or fame.
However I did pause and wonder what life would be like, if I were working in Europe. Never the less, I have no regret working in the Big Apple. Our works are still the best in the world.
They also said that: “New York is the only place in America that I feel I could live in. Everyone speak funny English, you don’t feel like a stranger there, it’s totally free.”
I am glad that they like to live in NY even though they miss the media attention. Secondly, I wonder where did they hang out while they were here. Although majority of us do have some kind of accent, myself included, I don’t think that is majority of New Yorkers speak funny English. U.S. is a melting pot and NYC is at the forefront of it all. I am glad they feel the pro side of having in flux of people living in the same city, that is exactly why we love our city too.
In the end I am still curious what a superstar designer’s life overseas is like. Most importantly does it come with a hefty paycheck?
Chance Encounter NYC
During a design Magazine interview. The young hot owners of one of the top interactive design firm in Europe said that “There are no superstar designer in the US; designers are just doing their business. When American designers come to Croatia, they are met by TV and media asking for an interview–they are stunned!”
I will too. American designers are not use to spot light. Most top designers are not well known outside of our industries. We are happy doing our own thing, and praise God that we have such a fulfilling job, doing what we love, that is more than enough. We don’t need media, or fame.
However I did pause and wonder what life would be like, if I were working in Europe. Never the less, I have no regret working in the Big Apple. Our works are still the best in the world.
They also said that: “New York is the only place in America that I feel I could live in. Everyone speak funny English, you don’t feel like a stranger there, it’s totally free.”
I am glad that they like to live in NY even though they miss the media attention. Secondly, I wonder where did they hang out while they were here. Although majority of us do have some kind of accent, myself included, I don’t think that is majority of New Yorkers speak funny English. U.S. is a melting pot and NYC is at the forefront of it all. I am glad they feel the pro side of having in flux of people living in the same city, that is exactly why we love our city too.
In the end I am still curious what a superstar designer’s life overseas is like. Most importantly does it come with a hefty paycheck?
Chance Encounter NYC
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Broadway Going Gay
Tuesday Front page NY Times “ New gay shows on Broadway” followed by a half page article on Page 3. I suppose that is good publicity for the new show. What I wonder is what is the fuss.
Gay shows been on the main steam on TV since the 90’s no one make a fuss about it. It is pure entertainment. May be because the theatre industry that is mainly supported by gays finally put their story onto the spot lighted center stage?
Is gay life or love really that different than any others? Do they not have the same set of problems, or similarly under the same oppression and discrimination like any minority groups?
As the critic wrote: These shows are “ Personal, Not Political” My friend characterizes these new shows, as “Gay Gap Theatre. Completely normal and inoffensive”. Built for straight audiences.
Some shows sounded interesting like “ Yanks” Next Fall, and The Pride” but it is all about the same old boring love story. There suppose to be more show about Gay marriage and gay adoption this fall. I am not sure that is something I even wanted to see.
I have not been to any of these show, I reserve my opinion for now. I am surprise that this is such a big news that appeared on the front page of NY Times. What about coverage of my Friends production of 101 Dalmatians. I am not kidding. It is on its way to Broadway, with real puppy. Already open in Madrid and Chicago.
Chance Encounter NYC
Gay shows been on the main steam on TV since the 90’s no one make a fuss about it. It is pure entertainment. May be because the theatre industry that is mainly supported by gays finally put their story onto the spot lighted center stage?
Is gay life or love really that different than any others? Do they not have the same set of problems, or similarly under the same oppression and discrimination like any minority groups?
As the critic wrote: These shows are “ Personal, Not Political” My friend characterizes these new shows, as “Gay Gap Theatre. Completely normal and inoffensive”. Built for straight audiences.
Some shows sounded interesting like “ Yanks” Next Fall, and The Pride” but it is all about the same old boring love story. There suppose to be more show about Gay marriage and gay adoption this fall. I am not sure that is something I even wanted to see.
I have not been to any of these show, I reserve my opinion for now. I am surprise that this is such a big news that appeared on the front page of NY Times. What about coverage of my Friends production of 101 Dalmatians. I am not kidding. It is on its way to Broadway, with real puppy. Already open in Madrid and Chicago.
Chance Encounter NYC
Monday, February 22, 2010
New York Cab Share
New York You did it again, more outrageous idea to easy traffic congestion. Instead of come up with through idea. Our Taxi and Limo commission (TLC) just try to pluck holes, and ripe us off along the way. The latest idea of Cab sharing is one of the most stupid ideas. (PEROID).
In case you have not heard. Starting this coming Friday, Taxi from three stops along Park Ave will be picking up multiple passengers going same direction, drop them off at various point and you share fare. How does that works, no one know yet.
I took a taxi to get somewhere because I had emergency. I do not want my Taxi turn into a Mini cab that stop at every corner to drop off passengers. If I am going to take a Taxi, I don’t care if I can save myself $3 a trip that I can’t even pay for my double cheese big Mac for lunch. Especially you ran into Passenger that take their sweet time to get out of the cab, or those have no cash had to pay with credit card. God help me.
After the MTA told us there will be another fare hike, now the TLC came up with this. What else is next? What happen to my voice as a passenger? Can I flat out refuse to share ride at the three dedicated locations? If I do, they charge me for multiple fares? We already pay for waiting time if the Cab got stuck in traffic. All these agencies are very creative on coming up with ideas to ripe off passengers, except a real idea to solve the traffic problem.
I got an idea here. How about Capitalize Manhattan by ban all Cars passing thru the city, only public transport is allowed. I am not going to laugh too loud about that; it may be reality soon.
Chance Encounter NYC
In case you have not heard. Starting this coming Friday, Taxi from three stops along Park Ave will be picking up multiple passengers going same direction, drop them off at various point and you share fare. How does that works, no one know yet.
I took a taxi to get somewhere because I had emergency. I do not want my Taxi turn into a Mini cab that stop at every corner to drop off passengers. If I am going to take a Taxi, I don’t care if I can save myself $3 a trip that I can’t even pay for my double cheese big Mac for lunch. Especially you ran into Passenger that take their sweet time to get out of the cab, or those have no cash had to pay with credit card. God help me.
After the MTA told us there will be another fare hike, now the TLC came up with this. What else is next? What happen to my voice as a passenger? Can I flat out refuse to share ride at the three dedicated locations? If I do, they charge me for multiple fares? We already pay for waiting time if the Cab got stuck in traffic. All these agencies are very creative on coming up with ideas to ripe off passengers, except a real idea to solve the traffic problem.
I got an idea here. How about Capitalize Manhattan by ban all Cars passing thru the city, only public transport is allowed. I am not going to laugh too loud about that; it may be reality soon.
Chance Encounter NYC
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Friendship.
If you are a skeptic about love in first sight, I think you may change your mind as I have if it happened to you. The arrow of St. Valentine had stroked me recently. It was sweet while it lasted; the hurt on the other hand is unbearable. I can’t recognize myself anymore.
Therefore on this beautiful Sunday afternoon I am mourning alone on my misfortune. Why does two people that is so perfect for each other, had to be separate by a vast ocean between them. That is the story for another blog when I am ready.
What surprises me through all these was so many of my friends were concern of my well being that emails and phone calls are pouring in, even from friends that are on the other side of the globe. That is absolutely amazing; I knew they are good friends, just not knowing the love they had for me. With everyone leading a busy life in the city; taking time to call and invite me to join them just to make sure that I am not sinking into a deep depression alone is a little out of character. Realizing these friendships are more than skin deep impresses me, and I feel blessed.
Perhaps genuine friendship in the Big Apple do exists some times. It is not all fun and games. By nature, the definitions of good friends do not change, even in a place like New York, shattered the mirth that New Yorkers are everyone for themselves.
Next time when you have a crisis I hope you have friends like mine.
Chance Encounter NYC
Therefore on this beautiful Sunday afternoon I am mourning alone on my misfortune. Why does two people that is so perfect for each other, had to be separate by a vast ocean between them. That is the story for another blog when I am ready.
What surprises me through all these was so many of my friends were concern of my well being that emails and phone calls are pouring in, even from friends that are on the other side of the globe. That is absolutely amazing; I knew they are good friends, just not knowing the love they had for me. With everyone leading a busy life in the city; taking time to call and invite me to join them just to make sure that I am not sinking into a deep depression alone is a little out of character. Realizing these friendships are more than skin deep impresses me, and I feel blessed.
Perhaps genuine friendship in the Big Apple do exists some times. It is not all fun and games. By nature, the definitions of good friends do not change, even in a place like New York, shattered the mirth that New Yorkers are everyone for themselves.
Next time when you have a crisis I hope you have friends like mine.
Chance Encounter NYC
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